Living (and writing about) the Law of Attraction!

Archive for the ‘power’ Category

My Emotional Evolution (more Insight about Abraham’s Step 4 teaching on Unconditional Love)

I woke up with clarity this morning (I love it when that happens!) about the evolution of my emotional condition. I got a detailed overview of the various stages through which I’ve progressed.

For the first few decades of my life, my emotions seemed to be completely and totally tied to conditions—whatever was going on around me—and I was hardly aware of the correlation. Even if I made the connection in my mind, I felt powerless to do anything about it. Something would happen in my world and I’d have an emotional response. PERIOD.

Then came enlightenment. For me it began about 15 years ago. But it was my introduction to Abraham-Hicks in 2004 that really kick-started my transformation. I learned that I had the ability to control my emotions (i.e. feel good on purpose.) That understanding transformed my life, taking me from depression to an overall state of happiness most of the time. It was a process, though; it certainly didn’t happen overnight.

As I realized I could decide how I wanted to feel—by continually choosing thoughts that felt better—my work became establishing/ controlling/ maintaining my emotional well-being.

HOWEVER… I can see now that I was still observing conditions, having emotional responses, and then dealing with them.

As I became aware of my changed vibration/ emotion, I would do the work—that is, apply the processes I was learning from Abraham and bring myself back to the joy which was becoming my set-point. NOTE: at the beginning this took weeks or even months. Over time, I could do it in days or hours if not minutes. Nevertheless, I was becoming a deliberate creator and excited about it!!

But what I had yet to learn is that the creation process is much more than just responding to conditions.

I understand now (Thank you, Abraham!!) that my emotions—how I choose to feel in the moment—can be utterly free of conditions. I can select, conjure, and enjoy the preferred feeling regardless of what’s going on around me. This, too, has been a process. I’ve been practicing for months now. It’s so liberating!

Conditions are still an important part of the play that I’m in, but they’re just the props, the background music, and the supporting actors. Emotions take center stage. In fact, they set the stage—determine which props are needed, pick the background music that matches the scene, and call on the appropriate actors to support my play.

THE EMOTIONS DETERMINE THE CONDITIONS—not the other way around!! (It’s always been that way I just couldn’t see it.)

I’ve become quite good at conjuring emotions (my last blog touched on that, and I’ll probably have more to offer about it in the coming weeks.) For now, I’ll just say its exciting, empowering, addictive, and just plain FUN!!

Where I’ll go from here in my emotional evolution, I don’t know. I certainly haven’t “arrived” (we never do.) However, I’m content to play with this new understanding for a while and look eagerly forward to the next aha!

A Week with Abraham – Laying New Pipes

Abraham’s been using so many new analogies lately. This one really resonates with me. I’m often in my head, trying to figure things out. Trying to analyze the whats and whys and hows of my life. Trying to get to the bottom of things. But Abraham says it so often:

There is no bottom!

We just keep a vibration alive that isn’t serving us. That’s not to say that we can’t learn from our mistakes. I know we can. I often get insight moving forward as I recognize the thoughts and feelings that fueled the old vibration. It’s the needing to know, needing to figure it out that binds us there. It’s the fear of making the same mistakes that increases the probability that we will.

In this analogy, Abraham describes the pond and creek system that Jerry and Esther created on their property years ago. It’s a circular system with pumps and pipes to keep it aerated and keep the water constantly flowing. Water is pumped into the pond, out through the creek, and back again.

One day recently, Esther noticed the pond was getting mirky, so she had someone come out to inspect it. They tried putting in a new pump, etc, but finally determined that the pipes that return the water to the pond were clogged. They tried for several days to unclog them, then announced to Esther that it would make more sense to lay new pipes.

Can you see why this is such a great analogy!

We tend to spend so much time trying to unclog our pipes (our old thoughts and belief systems). When there’s a problem, we want to fix it, deal with the crap that clogged it in the first place. It seems neglectful to just leave it buried and lay new pipes, doesn’t it?

Yet knowing what we know about the Law of Attraction, it’s easy to see how focusing on the crap that clogged the pipes just attracts more crap.

Just lay new pipes!

It’s really that simple. Start telling a new story. Start talking about what you want and WHY you want it. Stop talking about what went wrong!

NEW PIPES = NEW THOUGHTS ABOUT A SUBJECT (or a new subject altogether) 

So how does this tie into what they’re teaching about momentum? It’s not easy and often not possible to change the direction of our thoughts once they get going. I think what Abraham would say to that is we need to let any strong momentum play out and not try to resist it. But once the dust has settled and we can look at our situation more objectively – that’s when we have a choice:

Try to fix what went wrong or simply LAY NEW PIPES!

 

A Week with Abraham – Oh look…a squirrel!

My week spent with Abraham was so rich, so full of value. I can feel my power more now that I understand momentum. It offers me control – like my foot is truly on the gas pedal. The subtle changes in speed are perceptible as I lean into the momentum or pull back. I’ve never felt more deliberate!

As they spoke about momentum throughout the week, there were many times Abraham demonstrated the power of momentum by allowing someone into the hot seat who was bent on telling their negative story. Abraham’s response would be to kick them out (they’re doing it more and more lately – but in such a loving way) or distract them. I used to wonder why they always cut people off, didn’t let them talk. Now I know why. There’s absolutely no benefit in telling a story that isn’t serving them.

Recently Abraham has become even more witty, comedic – undoubtedly Jerry’s contribution. lol. When someone (Cancun, week one) began talking about a loved one on the “other side” Abraham began looking behind the blue drapes at the back of the stage. After a minute they explained that they were looking for the other side (The point being there is no other side). Often during week two, they would interrupt someone in the hot seat by pointing to something on the far side of the stage, saying, “Oh look…a squirrel.” Of course the audience would break into laughter and the occupant of the hot seat would get the point.

Some talented people created this lovely reminder on the beach in front of our resort during week two, Cancun Land Cruise

Some talented people created this lovely reminder on the beach in front of our resort during week two, Cancun Land Cruise

The point is…distraction is a powerful tool!

I’ve been applying this since I got back. Keeping things light and easy. Distracting myself before negative momentum gets going. My husband and I have been pointing out imaginary squirrels all week, and it never fails to get us laughing. (NOTE: if you want to see where this came from, watch the animated movie, UP. You can hear the dogs thoughts and how easily they’re distracted – it will also give you a visual, adding life to this delightful analogy).

It’s made me see how fickle we can be – not to mention lazy – when it comes to focus. We tend to live our lives unaware, helpless victims enslaved to a mind that has its own agenda. But that’s not the way it is at all! Once you get a whiff of the power that is available to you. OMG…it changes everything.

Abraham is using a lot of new terminology lately: vortex and grid (both concepts worthy of books with the same names) have been the theme of seminars for some time now. Lately I’m hearing terms such as momentum, spinning discs, laying new pipes (I’ll talk about that in another blog). People I’ve talked to are somewhat confused by the new terms – how they relate to earlier teaching and to each other. I have been a little, too, but this week gave me new clarity.

This is how I see it:

THOUGHT is attractive in nature ( which means it has the power to attract similar thoughts). As similar thoughts begin to assemble, they form a belief system which acts as a framework, or GRID, that continues to fill in with more like thoughts, ideas, inspirations, and eventually manifestations. Because of the creative power it holds, it’s helpful to see this grid as a SPINNING DISC, gaining MOMENTUM as it draws more to it. At any given time there are multiple discs spinning. How we feel determines which disc we are on. FOCUS allows us to choose (an easy process if we are aware and make the shift before the momentum gets too strong).

With a little practice, its easy to determine if the disc we are on is higher or lower on the Emotional Scale (a concept Abraham introduced years ago and can be read about in their book “Ask and it is Given”). Our ability to focus is the key. Paying attention to how our thoughts feel and exercising our ability to choose. Knowing too, that if we find ourselves on a disc that doesn’t feel good, we have the option to distract ourselves early on in the process.

Oh look…a squirrel!

A Week with Abraham – keeping the momentum going!

How do I sum up my thoughts and feelings about a week with Abraham-Hicks at the most luxurious resort I’ve ever experienced, with the most wonderful people I’ve ever had the privilege of spending time with? I’ve been thinking about it this morning as I’m basking in the deliciousness of the thoughts and feelings still coursing through me.

The teaching was profound, the interactions uplifting, and the food delicious. The service was impeccable, the weather perfect, the views stunning, the excursions fun. The connections I made were inspired, the memories unforgettable. Everything was magnificent, but let me be more specific.

This is of benefit to me because I want to capture the details of possibly the best (so far) week of my life. Not only that, but by spending time this morning remembering, savoring, basking, and writing, I can keep the momentum going!

Momentum…

That was the theme of the week I just spent. I heard it spoken, talked about it with others. I felt it. I practiced it. I now understand momentum in a new way.

Everything we do is about momentum!

Every thought we think adds momentum to the vibration we are experiencing – whether it be good or bad (higher or lower). The exciting part is that we get to choose which thought that might be.

There’s power in momentum. We understand that from science. We know from experience that once something gains momentum, it’s not so easy to stop or change directions. Abraham used the analogy of a car parked on a hilltop. When it first starts to roll, you could stop it with a little bit of effort if you were standing in front of it. But stand at the bottom of the hill and try to stop it – that would get messy!

They also use the analogy of jumping out of an airplane at 30,000 feet with no parachute. “Hold on it will be over soon.” Everyone laughs, but we get the point. Trying to stop the momentum when it really gets going is difficult if not impossible. 

The good news is…

We can be more deliberate about it. We don’t have to wait for the momentum to gain speed before we take action. Understanding that our thoughts are attractive in nature and if not monitored will gain momentum quickly, we can take note how they feel and shift direction before they carry us somewhere we don’t want to be. It’s an easy practice. In any moment we can ask ourselves, “Is this thought adding momentum to something wanted or something unwanted?” Or even easier, “How does this thought feel?”

GOOD FEELING THOUGHTS = POSITIVE MOMENTUM = PLEASING OUTCOME.

Learning to feel the momentum of our thoughts is a valuable exercise. It’s beneficial to watch (and feel) the momentum – even when it’s negative. Don’t try to stop it. Just notice how quickly it builds and watch it without judgement. Do what you can to soothe yourself. Go general. Tell yourself it will be over soon. You don’t have to deal with it right now. Everything will turn out all right. Distract yourself with a nap, a good book, or a favorite feel-good movie.

Once you’re in a better space, do what you can to build the momentum in the other direction. Deliberately focus on things that feel good, friends that make you laugh, foods that taste good, memories that make you smile. Get out into nature. Take a walk. Listen to music. Then tell yourself that your building the momentum on purpose and see how long you can keep it going (Law of Attraction will assist you).

Try it…

You’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll begin to feel in control of your thoughts, your vibration, your life.

I plan to post more insights from my week in Cancun with Abraham. Stay tuned!!

 

 

UNCONDITIONAL JOY?

ImageWe often hear the term unconditional love. People assign different meanings to it. I’ve heard it used to describe God’s love for humanity, a parent’s love for a child. It’s frequently used in a charitable sense…loving someone or something when it isn’t easy or natural to do, because it’s the “right” thing to do.

Ultimately, it means to love regardless of conditions.

What it means to me is to love—to choose to be in the vibration of love—despite what’s going on around me. If I love simply because it feels good to be “in love,” I’m not being selfish in the negative sense of the word. I’m giving the greatest gift I can give anyone. To be in the vibration of love and then through deliberate focus, shine the light of that love on another person—not because they deserve it but because I deserve to feel good—that’s unconditional love.

So what about unconditional joy?

Is it possible? YES! Its all about choice, all about focus.

I’ve had to remind myself of that lately. I’ve let myself get caught up in conditions around me and gotten sloppy with my focus. I’ve been looking at “what is” and letting it dictate how I feel.

I know better than that.

So I’ve made the decision, again, to choose joy regardless of conditions—despite what’s on the news or talked about endlessly on Facebook; despite “what is” in my life, my bank account, my body…

PLEASE NOTE: Feeling someone else’s pain won’t help them; focusing on the negative won’t change it; noticing what you don’t want won’t bring about what you do.

The bottom line is you deserve to feel good!

Give yourself a break and take your focus off the television, off the news feed on Facebook, off what isn’t working in your life right now…and focus on something that feels good. Take a moment to look at what is working in your life and appreciate it!

Use your ability to focus. Find something to appreciate and hold your gaze there long enough to feel your vibration raise. Then shine the light of your joy on others. Smile at the harried cashier; hum as you finish your Christmas shopping; breathe deeply as you catch the afternoon sunset; take a long moment to appreciate your favorite pet; curl up with a hot chocolate and classic Christmas movie with your spouse, child, sibling, or friend. Let your joy spill out through your expressions, your words, your actions.

No one can rob us of our joy. When we don’t feel it, it’s simply because we’ve taken our eyes off it. This Christmas, give the greatest gift you can give anyone…give them the gift of your joy! 

Weight Loss – LOA Style

As you might have assumed by the title, this blog isn’t about action. It dawned on me the other day that action can only take you as far as your belief system will allow.

This blog isn’t even about weight loss. It’s about alignment.

I want to tell you about my journey. Yes, I did lose weight, (I prefer to call it shedding or releasing, as losing infers that you’ll likely find it again) but my real journey has been an emotional one. I was always slim. As a teenager, I was extremely skinny. During my pregnancies, I barely gained more than the baby I was carrying. Even into my forties, I could still wear a bikini. And I always, ALWAYS, got the comment, “You’re so lucky!”

I guess I was. I could eat anything and gain nothing. In fact, in my thirties, I had to “diet” to gain weight and eat deliberately to maintain 130 lbs – a minimum healthy weight for my 5’8” frame.

After I turned 45, something changed.

I started gaining weight. I didn’t notice it right away, and when I did, I wasn’t overly concerned. I still looked good and felt okay. But as my weight creeped up to 150, and settled uncomfortably around my midsection, I began to take action: I cut back on carbs, ate more salads, ate smaller portions, etc. I began a palates routine and stuck to it daily for a couple of years. However, nothing I did seemed to stop the increase.

By April of this year (2012), I had reached 160 lbs and was embarrassingly aware of the excess – especially the muffin-top above my jeans. I hid it with looser clothing and tried to laugh it off, even accept it – as so many people I knew were dealing with the same issue.

In May, my latest novel received a prestigious book award and I made plans to go to New York to attend a gala ceremony where I would receive my gold medal. Of course, I’d need a new dress, but shopping turned out to be an exercise in frustration. I wanted to look good on my special night, but everything I tried on seemed to draw attention to what I saw as a hideous bulge around my middle. I finally settled on a dress. A knit fabric, it fit well, was high wasted and had ruching around the middle to supposedly hide my imperfections.

New York was a blast, and I thoroughly enjoyed the gala evening. All was well until I returned home and began looking at the pictures we had taken. I couldn’t believe my eyes. I was disgusted (I’m just being honest) by what I saw.

I saw a fat person. 

Until then, though I’d acknowledged I had gained weight, I didn’t see myself as fat. I’d always been slim and some part of my brain still thought I was. So…acting on that extremely negative emotion (I hated the way I looked), I started on a weight loss program* that a friend had tried and highly recommended. It was incredibly difficult at first. My food intake was seriously reduced and my choices were severely limited.

Every part of my being cried out in protest!

Physically, I was hungry and tired. I had a headache for 3 days straight. Emotionally I was a mess. As a student of Law of Attraction, I’d learned that I was unlimited, that I could be or do or have anything I wanted. I’d been told – and had seen evidence of it in other areas – that life didn’t have to be hard. Something didn’t add up.

By the end of the first week, I knew I had to make a decision – either quit the program or line up with it. I decided to line up with it. I even came to enjoy the approved recipes, savoring the little I could eat, and watching my weight go down. Long story short, I lost 23 ½ lbs in 28 days. I hadn’t quite reached my goal, but I was thrilled. I felt better than I had in years. I looked great. I was savoring all the compliments I was receiving.

But somewhere in the back of my mind a little voice was whispering, “Now what?” Since I had embarked on an action journey, would I have to keep up the action to maintain the results? Again, something in me cried out, “It doesn’t have to be hard; there’s an easier way!”

After 4 weeks of dieting, I followed a strict 3-week maintenance program, (which felt like heaven after such deprivation). I was told it was natural to “bounce back” a little and that my weight would settle and maintain even when I went back to eating normal.

Maybe it was because I didn’t really believe that. Maybe it was because I talked to people who’d been on the program, lost the weight, and then gained some or all of it back in time. Maybe it was because I knew there had to be a better way. Whatever it was, I went forward feeling uneasy.

In the 3 weeks following the maintenance, I gained 5 lbs. I didn’t even “bounce” at all. Every time I stepped on the scale, my weight had increased.

During this time, I had been asking my Inner Being for guidance and clarity. I knew there was an easier way and was determined to find it. I loved Abraham’s new teaching on “The Grid” and it occurred to me one day that this was the answer I’d been looking for.

I also became aware that I had some unhealthy thought patterns and belief systems about eating, weight gain/loss and self image. I began to examine those, and I started listening to everything I could about The Grid.

THE GRID is the emotional framework for our desire. It is the basis, the beginning of all that we see in manifested form. Creating it is our work (or the part we play in the creation of All That Is), our ONLY work. Once we create a grid, its the Universe’s job to fill it in, not ours. When we try to fill in the grid ourselves, our feeble efforts produce small results that don’t last!

The unhealthy belief systems I’d been holding on to had created a grid – one that filled in with weight gain, despite my earlier efforts to keep that from happening. Some of those were:

    • It’s natural to gain weight after you turn forty. (Someone told me that when I was in my thirties and it stuck)
    • Some foods are good/healthy. Others are bad/unhealthy (You hear that everywhere!)
    • Diet and exercise are essential to lose pounds and maintain a healthy attractive weight (Everyone seems to believe that to some degree)
    • I’d unconsciously delegated certain foods as “comfort foods” turning to them whenever I was feeling a little off instead of dealing with the issue.
    • I’d tried to “insulate” myself form hurts of the past, protecting myself from further exposure to pain and heartache. Physically, that resulted in weight gain in my chest and stomach area.

Awareness is so powerful and once I was aware of the grid I had been creating, I worked to replace it. I focused on the ease and comfort of wellbeing. I began to see my body – as well as the food I wanted to consume – as cooperative components to my desire to maintain a healthy and attractive weight.

I’d practiced this grid for several days when I woke up one morning with a powerful sense of wellbeing. I felt a comforting, guiding hand on my shoulder and the giddiness that comes with release of resistance.  I weighed myself the next morning and for the first time in weeks I had lost – 1 ½ lbs!

My attitude toward food changed dramatically. Suddenly I knew that anything I desired WAS good for me and would be used efficiently and affectively by my body. I began to savor everything I ate. There was no binging or eating things I didn’t even like just because I could. I just ate and enjoyed. Period.

That was three weeks ago and I have continued to shed pounds. I’ve shed 6 lbs (I weight myself every Monday and am excited to step on the scale now!) and want to shed 1 ½ more to reach my desired weight of 135 lbs.

I’m so excited. Not just because I’ve lost the weight, but because of the incredible alignment I feel. I know I’m a powerful creator, but demonstrating it in a deliberate way is exhilarating. Not only that but it gives me the confidence to apply this in other areas of my life.

In truth, I haven’t lost anything. I’ve gained so much. Thank you Abraham! Thank you Universe!!!

“So here we will drop the BIG BOMB on you- IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU EAT IT ONLY MATTERS HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU EAT IT. You could eat dirt, (we don’t know why any of you would want to) or CANDY, or any number of things that you have convinced yourself you should not eat, and if you were doing it in a vibration of “letting it in” your body would figure out how to make good use of WHATEVER you are consuming. On the other hand, you could eat the most nutritious of foods by the standards that have been set by your world at large, and if you are uncomfortable with yourself while you are doing it, the best of that which they call ” The Best” would NOT nurture you at all, because you’re not letting it in. Sort of like pinching it off so that even though the volume is going through you, the VALUE is not getting to you, because you are vibrationally not allowing it. So it is not about what you are doing, it is about how your are FEELING while you are doing it, you see.”

–Abraham Boston 10/7/00

*The diet plan I followed is called “Weight To Go.” It uses homeopathic (HCG) drops to maintain your body’s wellbeing while on such a limited calorie intake. I loved the quick results and felt a benefit from the cleansing it provided my body. As an action journey, I recommend it. My advice: once you make the decision, line up with it. Do it with joy and determination, expecting results…BUT do the emotional journey as well. Before, during or after, I don’t think it matters. That’s what produces lasting results!

Jeane Watier is an award-winning author of Visionary Fiction.

Life’s Song, the first novel of her Law of Attraction trilogy, won a bronze medal in the 2012 Living Now awards.

Her latest novel, A Brief Moment in Time, won a gold medal for visionary fiction in the 2012 Independent Publishers Book Awards, and honorable mention for general fiction in the 2012 Hollywood Book Festival

www.jeanewatier.com/

www.facebook.com/jeanewatier 

WHY AFFIRMATIONS DON’T WORK

As I’m doing research for my latest novel, I’ve been reading about hypnosis, self-hypnosis, hypnotherapy, etc. One of the books I read called, Through the Open Door, Secrets to Self-Hypnosis, gave me some insight into why affirmations (for the most part) don’t work. The book explains that we have a barrier between our conscious and unconscious mind, a filter system that protects us from suggestions that may not be in our best interest.

“The anti-suggestive barrier is the part of the mind that ‘protects’ the unconscious from suggestions that seem to be dangerous…(however) this barrier does not always identify truly dangerous problems. It only repels what the mind has been conditioned to believe is dangerous. (It) rejects input…that is not consistent with what is already in the unconscious mind.”

This barrier is made up of three parts: logic, emotions, and ethics.

  • The logical barrier protects us from suggestions that don’t jive with our sense of logic.
  • The emotional barrier protects us from suggestions that may hinder our security or self-confidence.
  • The ethical barrier protects us from suggestions that go against our ethical beliefs or morals.

The goal then is to overcome or find resonance with these barriers to create inner harmony—thereby opening the unconscious mind to POSITIVE SUGGESTION. We can do that by constructing messages to ourselves that our unconscious mind will accept.

Of course the book is talking about self-hypnosis, so the person would be in a self-induced trance state when the suggestion is made, but I really believe this can also apply to what we tell ourselves on a daily basis.

With LOA teaching, we learn that we get what we expect, however expectation is a belief that lies primarily in our unconscious. That’s why there is so often a discrepancy between what we think we are thinking about (conscious desires) and what is coming to us (manifestations)

We have deeply rooted belief systems in our subconscious, forming a barrier that can negate conscious thoughts and affirmations. The good news is that when a statement does pass through into our unconscious mind it is immediately acted upon as truth and implemented into our experience.

Therefore when making affirmations:

  • Use statements of faith, which is certainty or knowledge that something is.  “I know that well-being flows and I am open to receive it.”
  • Use goal-directed language (words that imply the goal is becoming a reality)  “I am becoming more (clear, healthy, prosperous) all the time.”
  • Use present (or near future) tense. “I am content with what is and eager for more.” (Abraham-Hicks)
  •  Avoid statements that currently are not true (even though we’d like them to be)  “I have all the money I need.” I am perfectly healthy.”

For example, years ago I began saying, “I always get good parking spots.” I could feel the resistance around that. My logic barrier kept rejecting that statement because my experience had simply not proven it to be true. Then I took a different tactic. I suggested that since people are always coming and going (from the mall or any other busy venue) someone could be pulling out right now. That one got past my logic barrier and implemented a permanent deep-rooted belief that it’s easy to get a parking spot. Hence, I always get good parking spots

I use the same suggestion to get comfy seats at Starbucks. Works like a charm!

Money/abundance is an elusive desire for many people. We tend to use affirmations that get rejected such as, “I am abundant.” or “I have all the money I need.” or “Money is flowing to me.” Can’t you just hear the buzzer cutting you off before you even finish the statement? Again, that’s because our logic barrier rejects a statement that has no evidence to support it.

I’ve begun using statements such as: “Money is energy. (I believe that everything is made up of energy, so this statement gets past my barrier). Therefore, as energy it is constantly expanding, transforming, flowing, becoming. Because it is energy it naturally expands to fill any vessel that is open to receive it. 

The bottom line is to use affirmations/statements that have at least an element of truth that your mind will receive. Feel your way. If you make a statement that doesn’t feel good initially, it’s a waste of time to keep repeating it over and over. FInd a better one—one that will slip past the barriers of your unconscious mind.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tag Cloud