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My Emotional Evolution (more Insight about Abraham’s Step 4 teaching on Unconditional Love)

I woke up with clarity this morning (I love it when that happens!) about the evolution of my emotional condition. I got a detailed overview of the various stages through which I’ve progressed.

For the first few decades of my life, my emotions seemed to be completely and totally tied to conditions—whatever was going on around me—and I was hardly aware of the correlation. Even if I made the connection in my mind, I felt powerless to do anything about it. Something would happen in my world and I’d have an emotional response. PERIOD.

Then came enlightenment. For me it began about 15 years ago. But it was my introduction to Abraham-Hicks in 2004 that really kick-started my transformation. I learned that I had the ability to control my emotions (i.e. feel good on purpose.) That understanding transformed my life, taking me from depression to an overall state of happiness most of the time. It was a process, though; it certainly didn’t happen overnight.

As I realized I could decide how I wanted to feel—by continually choosing thoughts that felt better—my work became establishing/ controlling/ maintaining my emotional well-being.

HOWEVER… I can see now that I was still observing conditions, having emotional responses, and then dealing with them.

As I became aware of my changed vibration/ emotion, I would do the work—that is, apply the processes I was learning from Abraham and bring myself back to the joy which was becoming my set-point. NOTE: at the beginning this took weeks or even months. Over time, I could do it in days or hours if not minutes. Nevertheless, I was becoming a deliberate creator and excited about it!!

But what I had yet to learn is that the creation process is much more than just responding to conditions.

I understand now (Thank you, Abraham!!) that my emotions—how I choose to feel in the moment—can be utterly free of conditions. I can select, conjure, and enjoy the preferred feeling regardless of what’s going on around me. This, too, has been a process. I’ve been practicing for months now. It’s so liberating!

Conditions are still an important part of the play that I’m in, but they’re just the props, the background music, and the supporting actors. Emotions take center stage. In fact, they set the stage—determine which props are needed, pick the background music that matches the scene, and call on the appropriate actors to support my play.

THE EMOTIONS DETERMINE THE CONDITIONS—not the other way around!! (It’s always been that way I just couldn’t see it.)

I’ve become quite good at conjuring emotions (my last blog touched on that, and I’ll probably have more to offer about it in the coming weeks.) For now, I’ll just say its exciting, empowering, addictive, and just plain FUN!!

Where I’ll go from here in my emotional evolution, I don’t know. I certainly haven’t “arrived” (we never do.) However, I’m content to play with this new understanding for a while and look eagerly forward to the next aha!


SOUL MATES by Jeane Watier – Free on Kindle March 5-9




From different worlds, Jace Rutherford and Cassandra Van Broden are an improbable match, but add a sweetly eccentric, psychic old woman to the mix and anything is possible.

In a story of unlikely connections, a friendship ensues between Jace and his elderly neighbor after she hires him to drive her car. Lady Sophia Langdon then summons her grandniece, asking her to write down something of great importance. A chance meeting leaves the two young people at odds and has Cassandra questioning Jace’s motives in working for her wealthy aunt.

Cassandra is awed by her aunt’s gift to her—a series of universal truths, simple yet profound. Enriched by the wisdom and excited to share it with others, Cassandra is devastated when her beloved aunt passes away before conveying the final truth. Jace, too, is shaken by Sophie’s sudden passing. Her advice has helped him immensely, and he finds it comforting to replay their conversations in his head. But when those conversations take on a whole new dimension, he discovers that the power of a soul connection can defy the boundaries of this time-space reality.

Three unlikely soul mates drawn together by the powerful LAW OF ATTRACTION.

Offering An Apology (Sorry doesn’t have to feel bad)

An apology is definitely in order. I did something this evening that I’ve never (to my knowledge) done before. I stood up a friend – left her sitting alone in a coffee shop waiting for me for almost half an hour. I wasn’t even just late. I so completely forgot about our meeting that when she finally called, I was curled up on my sofa, in my jammies watching American Idol. For those of you who don’t know me well, this is not typical behavior (okay maybe the jammies and American Idol). But standing someone up, forgetting something I value as much as a latte with a friend? That’s just not me!  I’m organized and always write my appointments in my trusty day-timer. I keep my commitments; my word, my integrity, is important to me. I’m very conscientious of other’s feelings and would never intentionally hurt anyone.

So what happened?

I could tell you all how busy I am, how we made a last minute decision to go out of town this weekend and I have a dozen things to do to get ready. I could claim I was tired and probably needed an evening at home to rest, so my mind subconsciously blanked out that appointment. I could speculate that maybe there was a greater reason for us not meeting tonight and I just don’t know what it is yet.

I don’t know the answer. The bottom line is: I let a friend down, and I’m sorry.

One thing I noticed, however, is that I didn’t react in the way I might have (probably would have) in the past. I didn’t kick myself around the block and back. I didn’t beat myself up. I actually didn’t even feel bad (sorry, yes, but not bad – there’s a difference). It made me realize how far I’ve come in my determination to feel good at all cost.

I made the decision a few years ago that nothing was more important than feeling good. I’ve honored that promise to myself and have continually found new ways to achieve and maintain joy in my life. One thing that has helped me immensely is the understanding (from Abraham-Hicks) that feeling negative emotion only ever means one thing. It means that I’m choosing to think a thought that my Inner Being is not willing to think. And the reason I feel bad is that  in choosing to think that thought, I have separated me from ME.

So tonight when I was tempted to feel guilty or disappointed in myself, or when I was tempted to start to worry that I’m getting forgetful, I asked myself if my Inner Being would join me in those thoughts.

The answer was clearly NO!

As I focused on my Inner Being and felt the love that She has for me, the appreciation, the adoration, I felt joy. I felt inspired, too. I began to think of ways that I can show my friend how much she  means to me, how I can now go out of my way to do something for her, to let her know just how special she is. As our friendship evolves, I hope that one day we’ll look back on this and laugh, share what we’ve learned, and even understand the reason behind what happened (or didn’t happen). In any case, It’s all good!

Back to the Processes!!

Last month, I was kind of negative on taking action, mentioning that Abraham doesn’t talk too much about their processes anymore. Well, now I have to eat my words because they’ve come out with a new DVD called The Processes of Creation. I haven’t received it yet, but am eagerly awaiting it – as I do all of Abe’s new stuff!! On top of that our LOA discussion group this month is on processes, tried and true techniques for getting in the vortex.

But this is where I want to make a distinction. I want to point out the subtle difference between doing to see physical results, and doing to feel better (to get in the vortex). For years, I diligently did all the things Abraham recommended: did the wallet process, kept a book of positive aspects, kept a creation box, tried focus wheels, turned it over to the manager, climbed up the emotional scale…and most of these I abandoned relatively quickly because I saw no tangible results.

What I didn’t get right away was that my efforts were in vain (or produced little result) because I did them with the wrong intent. One area I did have success in was moving up the emotional scale and overcoming depression. Because my intent in doing the processes in this case was to feel better, I saw results – powerful results –  in a relatively short time.

It’s been years now since I’ve felt anything close to depression. I experience joy on a daily basis and my life is magical in so many ways. But this past week I had the opportunity to see again how easy it is to spiral downward.

Thoughts are energy – each have their own vibrational frequency – and are controlled by the powerful Law of Attraction. So I understand how letting certain thoughts go unchecked can produce negative results quickly. But I also got to apply the processes that for me are tried and true.

My mom had a stroke this week. She’s 87 and has been slowly making her transition for a while now, and I have been preparing myself, but still, the news hit hard. The hardest part for me at this point is knowing we’ve never been close. I tried to distance myself a few years ago as I searched for my own well-being, and every time we were together, I felt myself being sucked back into that place I didn’t want to be anymore, so we saw less and less of each other. Token visits, guarded conversations, and me side-stepping the guilt pretty much describes our relationship over the past several years.

Anyway enough about that. What I really wanted to share here was how I observed this process – both the spiralling down and climbing back up deliberately. I truly was an observer and it was a cool place to be. It didn’t feel out of control like I did in the past. I knew I was choosing to think thoughts that weren’t serving me, knew that I could stop them, but I let them go – almost on purpose.

Maybe I just wanted to experience the contrast. Maybe, knowing I was in control, I took a walk on the dark side, just to see the difference, to appreciate the light. I don’t know. Whatever the reason, the experience served me. When I finally said, “ENOUGH!” and reminded myself of the truths I’d some to know, it didn’t take long at all. I reached for thoughts within my vibrational range. Joy wasn’t accessible yet, but I managed to find hope easily enough. I stayed there awhile enjoying the relief it brought as I imagined the possibility of reuniting with my mom – whether in the physical or once she’s made her transition – I know that it’s never too late.

She’s in Saskatchewan, and I couldn’t be with her but I imagined being by her side and holding her hand – telling her she’s not alone and allowing myself to feel the love that my Inner Being feels for both of us. Joy flooded in quickly at that point and I felt the connection that I’d longed for all these years. I’d moved up the emotional scale!

I also did another process that has served me over the years. I call it the power transfer. I first leaned of it when I read Busting Loose, by Robert Scheinfeld, but I’ve adapted it to serve me. It’s a simple technique of feeling the power of the negative emotion – I mean really feeling it in the pit of my stomach and holding it there, viscerally feeling the power that it seems to hold, observing it for a few seconds – and then with words of acknowledgement that I created the situation and ultimately hold the power, I imagine the power flowing back to me, surging through me and filling me, causing me to expand to become all that I am. It never fails to lift my vibration.

So I’m appreciative of the processes I’ve learned because for me they are tried and true. They work. I’m looking forward to talking more about his in our meeting this month and hearing others’ stories.

Join us: Wednesday Feb 23, 2011 at Self Connection Books. see to register or for more details.

Being in love…

What does it mean anyway?

We’ve been conditioned to associate the term, ‘in love,’ solely with romantic attachments―that fuzzy, warm feeling we have when everything is going well with our mate. That’s a wonderful place to be, but only if the other person feels the same. Unrequited love is to be pitied.

Or is it?

This view of love leaves us in a vulnerable state. If love can only feel good when given and received equally, then it is an illusive thing indeed!

On the other hand, what if being in love was a choice―one we make independent of others. What if being in love meant simply choosing to live in the vibration of love?

When you are focusing your attention on someone or something with a feeling of love or appreciation, then in that moment, you are in love. No one else has to reciprocate anything to allow you that pleasure.

Gazing at a sleeping infant, watching the sun set over a tranquil lake, or doing a good deed for a stranger, just because you can―all leave you feeling warm and fuzzy. They elevate your vibration to one of love.

Wouldn’t it be nice to feel like that more often?

Start right now; tell yourself, “I deserve to be in love today!” Then see what you can find to focus your loving attention on. Choose to love someone, not to get anything in return, but simply because it feels good to love. You don’t even have to act on it, although you may be inspired to.

And don’t exclude yourself. In fact, loving yourself is the best place to start.

Find that loving vibration and stay there as long as you can. Milk it. Revel in it.

Choose to be, ‘in love.’

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