This blog isn’t about what you think it’s about. So if you tuned in wanting tips on how to shed unwanted pounds, you may be disappointed.
But don’t leave yet; this may apply to you, too.
Have you ever thought about how others see you. What you see in the mirror and the image you hold in your mind is one thing, but what others see may be something else altogether.
They say it’s all about perception. But what are people really perceiving?
The other evening, my husband and I ran into a neighbor we knew from more than ten years ago. We started reminiscing, had a few drinks, and filled each other in on our lives and our kids lives.
Throughout the evening, he kept making comments about how we’d both changed. Three times he commented that I’d lost weight. In the past ten years I’ve actually put on 15 – 20 lbs, so I was quite surprised at his comments. Rather than correct him (I tried but he didn’t seem to hear me) I just let it go.
The next day, my husband brought it up and made a rather interesting (and insightful) comment. He reminded me that ten years ago I was still suffering from depression and that maybe the “heaviness” our neighbor had perceived was emotional, not physical.
That got me thinking. What do we really see when we look at people? What do they see when they look at me?
Obviously people can see and even sense when a person is happy, but I’m beginning to think it’s more than that. The vibrations we’re giving off influence how others perceive us in a more comprehensive way. And that perception is what they take away with them—what stays in their memory and what image pops up whenever they think of us.
The movie Shallow Hal (2001) illustrates this in a comical way. Jack Black’s character is, well, shallow. But after an encounter with Tony Robbins, he sees women in a new way and falls for a beautiful, but large Gwyneth Paltrow. He is seeing only her inner beauty, but what is inner beauty if not our vibration, our emotional countenance?
Does that emotional countenance have the power to distort even our physical appearance?
Vibrationally speaking, I’m much lighter than I used to be. I have lost weight in that sense. I’m happy now and I can even feel the “lightness”—the spring in my step, the smile that’s genuine, the youthful desire to skip in the park or jump in a pile of leaves or make a snow angel. So it makes sense that others pick up on that, too.
I’m glad to have lost the weight of depression, glad that it shows on my face and in the vibe that I now give off. And maybe when I get too caught up in the details of my physical appearance, I need to remind myself that that’s not what people are really “seeing” anyway.