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My Emotional Evolution (more Insight about Abraham’s Step 4 teaching on Unconditional Love)

I woke up with clarity this morning (I love it when that happens!) about the evolution of my emotional condition. I got a detailed overview of the various stages through which I’ve progressed.

For the first few decades of my life, my emotions seemed to be completely and totally tied to conditions—whatever was going on around me—and I was hardly aware of the correlation. Even if I made the connection in my mind, I felt powerless to do anything about it. Something would happen in my world and I’d have an emotional response. PERIOD.

Then came enlightenment. For me it began about 15 years ago. But it was my introduction to Abraham-Hicks in 2004 that really kick-started my transformation. I learned that I had the ability to control my emotions (i.e. feel good on purpose.) That understanding transformed my life, taking me from depression to an overall state of happiness most of the time. It was a process, though; it certainly didn’t happen overnight.

As I realized I could decide how I wanted to feel—by continually choosing thoughts that felt better—my work became establishing/ controlling/ maintaining my emotional well-being.

HOWEVER… I can see now that I was still observing conditions, having emotional responses, and then dealing with them.

As I became aware of my changed vibration/ emotion, I would do the work—that is, apply the processes I was learning from Abraham and bring myself back to the joy which was becoming my set-point. NOTE: at the beginning this took weeks or even months. Over time, I could do it in days or hours if not minutes. Nevertheless, I was becoming a deliberate creator and excited about it!!

But what I had yet to learn is that the creation process is much more than just responding to conditions.

I understand now (Thank you, Abraham!!) that my emotions—how I choose to feel in the moment—can be utterly free of conditions. I can select, conjure, and enjoy the preferred feeling regardless of what’s going on around me. This, too, has been a process. I’ve been practicing for months now. It’s so liberating!

Conditions are still an important part of the play that I’m in, but they’re just the props, the background music, and the supporting actors. Emotions take center stage. In fact, they set the stage—determine which props are needed, pick the background music that matches the scene, and call on the appropriate actors to support my play.

THE EMOTIONS DETERMINE THE CONDITIONS—not the other way around!! (It’s always been that way I just couldn’t see it.)

I’ve become quite good at conjuring emotions (my last blog touched on that, and I’ll probably have more to offer about it in the coming weeks.) For now, I’ll just say its exciting, empowering, addictive, and just plain FUN!!

Where I’ll go from here in my emotional evolution, I don’t know. I certainly haven’t “arrived” (we never do.) However, I’m content to play with this new understanding for a while and look eagerly forward to the next aha!



ImageWe often hear the term unconditional love. People assign different meanings to it. I’ve heard it used to describe God’s love for humanity, a parent’s love for a child. It’s frequently used in a charitable sense…loving someone or something when it isn’t easy or natural to do, because it’s the “right” thing to do.

Ultimately, it means to love regardless of conditions.

What it means to me is to love—to choose to be in the vibration of love—despite what’s going on around me. If I love simply because it feels good to be “in love,” I’m not being selfish in the negative sense of the word. I’m giving the greatest gift I can give anyone. To be in the vibration of love and then through deliberate focus, shine the light of that love on another person—not because they deserve it but because I deserve to feel good—that’s unconditional love.

So what about unconditional joy?

Is it possible? YES! Its all about choice, all about focus.

I’ve had to remind myself of that lately. I’ve let myself get caught up in conditions around me and gotten sloppy with my focus. I’ve been looking at “what is” and letting it dictate how I feel.

I know better than that.

So I’ve made the decision, again, to choose joy regardless of conditions—despite what’s on the news or talked about endlessly on Facebook; despite “what is” in my life, my bank account, my body…

PLEASE NOTE: Feeling someone else’s pain won’t help them; focusing on the negative won’t change it; noticing what you don’t want won’t bring about what you do.

The bottom line is you deserve to feel good!

Give yourself a break and take your focus off the television, off the news feed on Facebook, off what isn’t working in your life right now…and focus on something that feels good. Take a moment to look at what is working in your life and appreciate it!

Use your ability to focus. Find something to appreciate and hold your gaze there long enough to feel your vibration raise. Then shine the light of your joy on others. Smile at the harried cashier; hum as you finish your Christmas shopping; breathe deeply as you catch the afternoon sunset; take a long moment to appreciate your favorite pet; curl up with a hot chocolate and classic Christmas movie with your spouse, child, sibling, or friend. Let your joy spill out through your expressions, your words, your actions.

No one can rob us of our joy. When we don’t feel it, it’s simply because we’ve taken our eyes off it. This Christmas, give the greatest gift you can give anyone…give them the gift of your joy! 

Abraham talks about The Bridge

I first heard Abraham mention The Bridge at the Phoenix workshop in December (2011). It was in reference to Jerry’s passing and when asked they didn’t elaborate. I’ve been hoping to hear more, and of course when I ask it is given…I heard a wonderful explanation of it listening to the San Francisco workshop (February 18, 2012)

“The bridge that Jerry is making (for Esther) is that she knows the things he was interested in, the things that mattered to him most. So she can find those subjects and she can feel him blowing and flowing. She is able to accurately define the current existence of that man that she loved and that energy that she still knows is continuing on and there is no question in her mind, when she tunes to that, the specifics of that being who’s made his transition. Now that’s a bridge worth making.”

“She (Esther) can still feel the focus of his beingness, still feel the things that he’s most interested in.” (Here they relate the story of the Pines that block their view and how Jerry wanted them pruned. You’ll have to check that out.)

“The bridge Jerry is making for Esther is the bridge of eternal life, the bridge of eternal relationship, and the bridge of never-endedness.”

What I get from this is that those who have gone before us become the greater part of us. They help us to understand the connectedness, the eternalness of all that is. That’s the gift they give us. They continue to be a vital part of all that is and all that we are. The earth is still spinning on it’s axis because of their ongoing focus upon all things physical. The desires that they have carved out are still manifesting (to their delight) and our benefit. And we can have complete access to them, continue co-creating with them and enjoy them fully.

I tried to find one last quote. (I believe it’s from the Sacramento workshop (March 2012). A woman in the hot seat thanked Esther and Abraham and told of the love she felt for them. Abraham responded by saying (paraphrased) “Is it the love you’re feeling for us or the love we’re feeling for you? There’s no distinction. That’s the bridge.”

“It isn’t so much that Jerry or anyone from nonphysical perspective is bridging, it’s that your awareness of them causes the bridge.”

From the nonphysical perspective the bridge is always there and the love is always flowing, but we pinch it off by our grief and telling the story of loss. However, when we focus on a loved one who has transitioned, if we think of the love we feel for them, if we remember something they were interested in or passionate about, then we have access to that bridge, and the emotion we feel in that moment is the love and appreciation flowing both ways.

Offering An Apology (Sorry doesn’t have to feel bad)

An apology is definitely in order. I did something this evening that I’ve never (to my knowledge) done before. I stood up a friend – left her sitting alone in a coffee shop waiting for me for almost half an hour. I wasn’t even just late. I so completely forgot about our meeting that when she finally called, I was curled up on my sofa, in my jammies watching American Idol. For those of you who don’t know me well, this is not typical behavior (okay maybe the jammies and American Idol). But standing someone up, forgetting something I value as much as a latte with a friend? That’s just not me!  I’m organized and always write my appointments in my trusty day-timer. I keep my commitments; my word, my integrity, is important to me. I’m very conscientious of other’s feelings and would never intentionally hurt anyone.

So what happened?

I could tell you all how busy I am, how we made a last minute decision to go out of town this weekend and I have a dozen things to do to get ready. I could claim I was tired and probably needed an evening at home to rest, so my mind subconsciously blanked out that appointment. I could speculate that maybe there was a greater reason for us not meeting tonight and I just don’t know what it is yet.

I don’t know the answer. The bottom line is: I let a friend down, and I’m sorry.

One thing I noticed, however, is that I didn’t react in the way I might have (probably would have) in the past. I didn’t kick myself around the block and back. I didn’t beat myself up. I actually didn’t even feel bad (sorry, yes, but not bad – there’s a difference). It made me realize how far I’ve come in my determination to feel good at all cost.

I made the decision a few years ago that nothing was more important than feeling good. I’ve honored that promise to myself and have continually found new ways to achieve and maintain joy in my life. One thing that has helped me immensely is the understanding (from Abraham-Hicks) that feeling negative emotion only ever means one thing. It means that I’m choosing to think a thought that my Inner Being is not willing to think. And the reason I feel bad is that  in choosing to think that thought, I have separated me from ME.

So tonight when I was tempted to feel guilty or disappointed in myself, or when I was tempted to start to worry that I’m getting forgetful, I asked myself if my Inner Being would join me in those thoughts.

The answer was clearly NO!

As I focused on my Inner Being and felt the love that She has for me, the appreciation, the adoration, I felt joy. I felt inspired, too. I began to think of ways that I can show my friend how much she  means to me, how I can now go out of my way to do something for her, to let her know just how special she is. As our friendship evolves, I hope that one day we’ll look back on this and laugh, share what we’ve learned, and even understand the reason behind what happened (or didn’t happen). In any case, It’s all good!

Back to the Processes!!

Last month, I was kind of negative on taking action, mentioning that Abraham doesn’t talk too much about their processes anymore. Well, now I have to eat my words because they’ve come out with a new DVD called The Processes of Creation. I haven’t received it yet, but am eagerly awaiting it – as I do all of Abe’s new stuff!! On top of that our LOA discussion group this month is on processes, tried and true techniques for getting in the vortex.

But this is where I want to make a distinction. I want to point out the subtle difference between doing to see physical results, and doing to feel better (to get in the vortex). For years, I diligently did all the things Abraham recommended: did the wallet process, kept a book of positive aspects, kept a creation box, tried focus wheels, turned it over to the manager, climbed up the emotional scale…and most of these I abandoned relatively quickly because I saw no tangible results.

What I didn’t get right away was that my efforts were in vain (or produced little result) because I did them with the wrong intent. One area I did have success in was moving up the emotional scale and overcoming depression. Because my intent in doing the processes in this case was to feel better, I saw results – powerful results –  in a relatively short time.

It’s been years now since I’ve felt anything close to depression. I experience joy on a daily basis and my life is magical in so many ways. But this past week I had the opportunity to see again how easy it is to spiral downward.

Thoughts are energy – each have their own vibrational frequency – and are controlled by the powerful Law of Attraction. So I understand how letting certain thoughts go unchecked can produce negative results quickly. But I also got to apply the processes that for me are tried and true.

My mom had a stroke this week. She’s 87 and has been slowly making her transition for a while now, and I have been preparing myself, but still, the news hit hard. The hardest part for me at this point is knowing we’ve never been close. I tried to distance myself a few years ago as I searched for my own well-being, and every time we were together, I felt myself being sucked back into that place I didn’t want to be anymore, so we saw less and less of each other. Token visits, guarded conversations, and me side-stepping the guilt pretty much describes our relationship over the past several years.

Anyway enough about that. What I really wanted to share here was how I observed this process – both the spiralling down and climbing back up deliberately. I truly was an observer and it was a cool place to be. It didn’t feel out of control like I did in the past. I knew I was choosing to think thoughts that weren’t serving me, knew that I could stop them, but I let them go – almost on purpose.

Maybe I just wanted to experience the contrast. Maybe, knowing I was in control, I took a walk on the dark side, just to see the difference, to appreciate the light. I don’t know. Whatever the reason, the experience served me. When I finally said, “ENOUGH!” and reminded myself of the truths I’d some to know, it didn’t take long at all. I reached for thoughts within my vibrational range. Joy wasn’t accessible yet, but I managed to find hope easily enough. I stayed there awhile enjoying the relief it brought as I imagined the possibility of reuniting with my mom – whether in the physical or once she’s made her transition – I know that it’s never too late.

She’s in Saskatchewan, and I couldn’t be with her but I imagined being by her side and holding her hand – telling her she’s not alone and allowing myself to feel the love that my Inner Being feels for both of us. Joy flooded in quickly at that point and I felt the connection that I’d longed for all these years. I’d moved up the emotional scale!

I also did another process that has served me over the years. I call it the power transfer. I first leaned of it when I read Busting Loose, by Robert Scheinfeld, but I’ve adapted it to serve me. It’s a simple technique of feeling the power of the negative emotion – I mean really feeling it in the pit of my stomach and holding it there, viscerally feeling the power that it seems to hold, observing it for a few seconds – and then with words of acknowledgement that I created the situation and ultimately hold the power, I imagine the power flowing back to me, surging through me and filling me, causing me to expand to become all that I am. It never fails to lift my vibration.

So I’m appreciative of the processes I’ve learned because for me they are tried and true. They work. I’m looking forward to talking more about his in our meeting this month and hearing others’ stories.

Join us: Wednesday Feb 23, 2011 at Self Connection Books. see to register or for more details.

Talking to Myself

I don’t know exactly when I started talking to myself.  Maybe it’s something we all do.  But I do remember the day, several years ago, when I started writing these conversations down.  I had just finished reading Lucia Capacchione’s book, “The Power of the Other Hand”.  The idea of writing with my left hand seemed weird at first and when I tried, it was barely legible, but I was intrigued with the concept.                                 

The conversations in my head were an ongoing dialogue. When I stopped to pay attention, I realized there were different characters.  There was “Larry”, my inner critic. He was loud and at first he was the only one I heard.  But when I really listened, I heard a child’s voice – vulnerable, yet playful.  As I paid attention to my inner child and assured her of my love, she seemed to evolve into this wise, loving being.  I started writing down what I heard in my head and then as I got more proficient at writing with my left hand, the conversations began to flow naturally.  One day I wrote:

“I want to experience “God”.  I’ve always believed in a divine presence, but I’m not sure I really believe that I am a divine being.  Please help me to understand this.” 

“Oh, how I love you!  Do you remember the first time you were able to say that to yourself?  That was me.  You came to understand that and began to let my love in.   You could feel me.  I have been with you every step of this journey, gently guiding you as you were ready.  Don’t worry; I’ll always be there with you.”

“I like talking to you this way.  I feel your presence, your embrace.  I want to experience you as me though, not just a power outside of me – which is where I think I’ve always seen you.”

“I’ve never been outside of you.  I don’t know what that feels like.  I am you.  I experience life through you.”

 “Can you give me an example?”

“Think of a sock.  If you turn it inside out, it’s still a sock.  It’s not what’s inside or outside it that makes it a sock.  It just is.”

“You compare yourself to a sock?” 

“That’s as down to earth as I could get.  But really, if I am you and you are me, then it’s not what’s inside you or outside you that matters.  It’s you.  You are divine.  I’m not just a presence you feel, I am you.  I’m not now nor have I ever been separate from you.  How could I be when we are one?”

“I think I understand this, but I want to feel you as me – to have a life changing experience that, well, changes my life!”

“Your life has changed dramatically in the last while.  We could speed things up, but why not just enjoy the journey?  You’ve got no deadline.  This never ends.  I’ve been showing myself to you – showing you to yourself.  You’re beginning to get it.  Keep talking to me.  Keep the connection open.”

“Okay, now I’m confused again!  When you say ‘keep the connection open’, it feels like you are separate from me.  How can I not be connected if I am you?”

“A connection in the physical realm involves two separate entities, but in the spiritual realm, connection is like awareness or knowing.  Keeping that connection open is like being aware of who you are.  Negative thoughts like doubt or worry pinch off your awareness of your divine nature.”

“Thank you that makes so much sense.”   

“Now that you acknowledge me (us), we can get on with dreaming, creating, BE-ing. We’re here to enjoy life.  Remember how much I love you.  Bathe yourself in the knowledge of your divine nature.  Be all that you are!”

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